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Is it just me or do most moms feel like they're just winging it?

I really do think things through but in recent weeks I've felt more overwhelmed than usual. I guess it mostly has to do with Bannock's new-found mobility (he's crawling everywhere and starting to walk) and he has an endless supply of energy. Before I became a mommy I had all these ideas about making sure I had quality time to teach and play and read but now I feel at a loss to try and fit everything in. I know most kids need structure and consistency, which I do my very best to provide...breakfast by nine, bottle, nap, walk/play, lunch, play, read, nap, play, dinner, bath/read, bedtime. That's my whole day. And throughout the whole thing I'm feeling flustered and tense. It's like my brain turned into a clock the moment I gave birth and now my mind is constantly ticking, the only thoughts are "when did he last eat?" "when did he last get a diaper change?" "how long was his nap?"

I remember magazine's and websites telling me "You're the only one who know's best for your children so when all else fails go with your gut." I think thats only partly true just because I feel thats all I have left to "go with". But can that really be right for every kid? I mean there are some moms out there who could really learn a lesson or two in child rearing. I'm not perfect. I'm not the greatest. But I can't help but feel like that statement is made just to appease so as not to offend. No one likes to be told that they're wrong. And yes we all know what's best for our babies because what's best is what we want, and what we think society needs. Yet I still can't agree that all mom's should "go with their instincts" on everything, because not everyone is right and not every woman can give a child what they actually need. I guess it's a lost cause to argue both sides. What I'm really trying to say is that as a mother I give all the love and discipline that I see fit and just hope that by "winging it" I'll get something right.... eventually.